《成功的钥匙》

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understanding and applying each of these points reinforce your PMA。



  
 

 

 
前言
将明确目标运用于工作
组织智囊团
积极心态(PMA)
机智
正义感
情绪的控制
展现信心的力量
付出一点点
培养个人进取心
培养积极心态
百分之二的成功者
加入百分之二俱乐部 
如何培养热枕
强化自律
习惯控制
控制你的注意力
激发团队的合作精神
逆境变成一种祝福
创造力是今日世界不可少的能力
有效的身心刺激物
个人盘点
运用自然力量
迅速回顾

  
《成功的钥匙》机智 '打印本页'
机智 Tact

做任何事情都有适当、不适当的时机,机智就是要在适当时机做适当的事和说适当的话。机智和礼节有很密切的关系,一个人不可能只具备其中一种而缺少另一种特质,机智是一项无价的处世技巧,表现机智和缺乏机智,同样会让人看得见。 
There is a right moment and a wrong moment for everything。Tact is the habit of doing and saying the right thing at the right moment。Tact is so closely related to courtesy that you cannot practice one without the other。It is an invaluable skill;just as noticeable for its absence as for its presence。

以下是缺乏机智时最常发生的情况:
Here is a list of the most mon ways people show their lack of tact:

1.不注意自己说话的语气,经常以不悦而且对立的语气说话。
1。Carelessness in their tone of voice;often speaking in gruff;antagonistic tones。 

2.应该保持沉默的时候偏偏爱说话。
2。Speaking out of turn;when silence would be more appropriate。

3.打断别人的话。 
3。Interrupting others who are speaking。

4.滥用人称代词。以至在每个句子中都用“我”这个字。 
4。Overworking the personal pronoun so that every sentence features the word〃I〃。

5.以傲慢的态度提出问题,给人一种只有他最重要的印象。
5。Asking impertinent questions;often to impress others with their own importance。

6.在谈话中插入一些和自己有亲密关系,但却会使别人感到不好意思的话题。
6。Injecting intimately personal subjects into the conversations when such subjects are embarrassing to others。

7.不请自来。 
7。Going where they have not been invited。

8.自吹自擂。 
8。Boastfulness 

9.嘲笑社会上的穿着规范。 
9。Flouting social norms in matters of attire。

10.在不适当时刻打电话。 
10。Making calls at inconvenient hours

11.在电话中谈一些别人不想听的无聊话。 
11。Holding people on the telephone with needless conversations。

12.对不熟悉的人写一封内容过分亲密的信。 
12。Writing letters that are overly familiar to people they hardly know。 

13.不管自己了不了解,而任意对任何事情发表意见。
13。Volunteering unsolicited opinions on any subject under the sun;without regard to their knowledge。

14.公然质问他人意见的可靠性。 
14。Openly questioning the soundness of others' opinions。

15.以傲慢的态度拒绝他人的要求。 
15。Declining requests from others in an arrogant manner。

16.在别人的朋友面前说一些瞧不起他的话。 
16。Speaking disparagingly of people in front of their friends。

17.指责和自己意见不同的人。 
17。Rebuking people who disagree with them。

18.评论别人的无能力。 
18。menting on people's disabilities。

19.当着他人的面,指正部后和同事的错误。
19。Correcting subordinates and colleagues in the presence of others。

20.请求别人帮忙被拒绝后心生抱怨。 
20。plaining when requests for favors are refused。

21.利用友谊请求帮助。 
21。Presuming upon friendship in asking for favors

22.措词不敬或具有攻击性。
22。Using profane or offensive language

23.当场表示不喜欢。 
23。Expressing dislikes at a drop of a hat

24.老是想着不幸或痛苦的事情。
Dwelling on ills or misfortunes

25.对政治或宗教发出抱怨。
25。plaining about politics or religion

26.表现过亲密的行为。 
26。Displaying general overfamiliarity

如果你认为这些都是一些小缺点的话,那就错了。因为 这些缺点的混合速度是非常快的!你愿意和平常就显露出三“种缺点的人交往吗?这些缺点意味着,缺乏感受和细心体谅 的能力,并且会使人对这种人的智慧产生怀疑,任何想要培 养具吸引力个性的人,都应远离这些缺点。
If these faults seem small to you;consider how quickly they pound one another。Would you want to be associated with someone who displayed just three of them regularly? They reveal a lack of perception and careful consideration that undermines one's confidence in another's mental powers。 Anyone who desires an attractive personality will avoid them all。



  
 

 

 
前言
将明确目标运用于工作
组织智囊团
积极心态(PMA)
机智
正义感
情绪的控制
展现信心的力量
付出一点点
培养个人进取心
培养积极心态
百分之二的成功者
加入百分之二俱乐部 
如何培养热枕
强化自律
习惯控制
控制你的注意力
激发团队的合作精神
逆境变成一种祝福
创造力是今日世界不可少的能力
有效的身心刺激物
个人盘点
运用自然力量
迅速回顾

  
《成功的钥匙》正义感 '打印本页'
正义感
A keen Sense of justice 

除非你能以公正的态度对待他人,否则即无法培养出吸引入的个性,而且也无法达到明确目标,正义感的一项不可或缺的根本要素,就是“有意的诚实”。
Unless you deal justly with others you cannot hope either to cultivate an attractive personality or to succeed in your definite major purpose。The essential ponent of a keen sense of justice is a dedication to intentional honesty。 

许多人把诚实当做是一种权宜之计,但由于这种诚实态度弹性太大,致使它可能会被扭曲成谋求自己利益的一种手 段。在培养坦白的说话态度时,你就已经在实践有意的诚实 方面,跨出了重要的一步;你必须坚持这种诚实美德,并且无论是否会为你带来立即的好处都要实践它。
Many people are honest for the sake of expediency; but this kind of honesty is so flexible that it can be contorted to serve in any situation which furthers their interests。By cultivating frankness of speech;you are already taking an important step in practicing intentional honesty;you must adhere to that honesty so closely that you practice it under and circumstance;whether or not it promises you any immediate gain。

即使正义感无法使你抓住每一次的获利的机会,但它却 能为你带来下列的实际好处。 
Even if a keen sense of justice prevents you from seizing every opportunity; it carries with it a host of practical benefits:

1.它为你建立起信心的基础;没有了信心你将无法培养出吸引人的个性。
It establishes the basis of confidence;without which you cannot have an attractive personality

2.它建立起深具魅力的诚挚和健全的性格。
It builds a fundamentally sincere and sound character;which by itself is a powerfully attractive trait

3.它不仅会吸引他人的注意,同时还提供获得真正而 是永久不变之个人利益的机会。 
It not only attracts people but offers opportunities for real and lasting personal gain

4.它使你培养出自立和自重精神。 
It builds your sense of self…reliance and self…respect

5。它强化你的道德良知,并因而使你的行动更为迅速, 因为此时你的动机和欲望比以往更加清晰。 
It strengthens your relationship with your conscience and thus allows you to act more promptly since your motives and desires are clearer

6。它吸引值得你交往的朋友并且击败你的对手。
It attracts worthwhile friends and discourages you enemies

7。它敞开你的心胸迎向信心。 
It opens your mind to faith

8。它保护你兔子陷入破坏性的争议,想想看有多少杰 出人物因为言行不慎而走上自我毁灭之路。 
It protects you from destructive controversies。Consider how often people of prominence are laid low by revelations of impropriety

9。它鼓励你以具有魅力的个性朝饲明确目标迈进。 
It inspires you to move toward your definite major purpose with greater personal initiative

正义感不仅是一种获得实质利益的工具,同时还能强化 各种人际关系,它驱除贪婪和自私,并使你更了解你的权益 和责任,而所有其他个性也将因为有了正义感而更有力量。 
A keen sense of justice is not merely a tool for gaining material rewards。It enhances every human relationship。It discourages avarice and selfishness and gives you a much better understanding of your rights;privileges;and responsiblities。With it;every aspect of attractive personality grows stronger。 



  
 

 

 
前言
将明确目标运用于工作
组织智囊团
积极心态(PMA)
机智
正义感
情绪的控制
展现信心的力量
付出一点点
培养个人进取心
培养积极心态
百分之二的成功者
加入百分之二俱乐部 
如何培养热枕
强化自律
习惯控制
控制你的注意力
激发团队的合作精神
逆境变成一种祝福
创造力是今日世界不可少的能力
有效的身心刺激物
个人盘点
运用自然力量
迅速回顾

  
《成功的钥匙》情绪的控制 '打印本页'
情绪的控制 

在我们做的事情当中,有许多都受到感情的影响。由于 我们的感情可为我们带来伟大的成就,也可能使我们失败, 所以,我们必须了解,要控制自己的感情,首先应该做的是,了解对我们有刺激作用的感情有哪些?我们可将这些感 情分为七种消极和七种积极的情绪。
Much of what we do is directed by our feelings。Since our feelings can lift us to great achievements or hurl us down to defeat;we owe it to ourselves to understand and control them。The first step is to identify the feelings which motivate us。There are seven negative emotions and seven positive。

七种消极情绪为:
There seven negative emotions are: 七种积极情绪为:
The seven positive emotions are: 
1.恐惧 Fear
2.仇恨 Hatred
3.愤怒 Anger
4.贪婪 Greed
5.嫉妒 Jealousy
6.报复 Revenge 
7.迷信 Superstition 1.爱 Love 
2.性 Sex
3.希望 Hope
4.信心 Faith
5.同情 Sympathy
6.乐观 Optimism
7.忠诚 Loyalty 

以上14种情绪,正是你人生计划成功或失败的关键, 他们的组合,既能意义非凡,又能够混乱无章,完全由你决定。 
These fourteen emotions are the letters of the alphabet with which you will write your plan for success or failure。They can be bined meaningfully or chaotically。

上面每一种情绪都和心态有关,这也就是为什么我一直强调心态的原因。这些情绪实际上就是个人心态的反映,而心态是你可以组织、引导和完全掌控的对象。为了达到组织、引导和掌控的目的,你必须控制你的思想,你必须对思想中产生的各种情绪抱持着警觉性,并且视其对心态的影响是好是坏而接受或拒绝。乐观会增强你的信心和弹性,而仇根会使你失去宽容和正义感。如果你无法控制自己情绪,你的一生将会因为不时的情绪冲动而受害。
Each emotion is related to mental attitude;and that is why I have placed so much stress on the character of one's mental attitude。These emotions are nothing but reflections of your mental attitude;which you can organize;guide;and pletely mand。To do so;you must take control of your present there;and embrace or reject them on the basis of their contribution to your mental attitude。Optemism will increase your confidence and flexibility;hatred will undermine your tolerance and keen sense of justice。If you do not take this control;you are condemning yourself to an entire life buffeted by the winds of emotional whim。

如果你正在努力控制情绪的话,可难备一张图表,写下你每天体验并且控制情绪的次数,这种方法可使你了解情绪发作的频繁性和它的力量。一旦你发现刺激情绪的因素时,便可采取行动除掉这些因素,或把它们找出来充分利用。 
If you find yourself struggling to gain this control;pile a chart on which you note every day the number of times you experience and act on an emotion。Make a not of circumstances which inspire the emotion。 This will give you tremendous insight into the frequency and power of your emotions。Onve you know which forces trigger your emotions;you can act to eliminate them or to seek them out and use them。

将你追求成功的欲望,转变成一股强烈的执着意念,并 且照手实现你的明确目标,这是使你学得情绪控制能力的两 个基本要件,这两个基本要件之间,具有相辅相成的关系, 而其中一个要件获得进展时,另一要件也会有所进展。
Building you desire for success into a burning obsession and embarking on your definite major purpose are the cornerstones of your efforts to gain emotional control。Each strengthens the other;and progress with one will mean progress everywhere。



  
 

 

 
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